Why Your Past Doesn’t Define Your Future
If you’re still dwelling on the bad shit that’s happened to you in the past, you’re keeping yourself from achieving greatness.
Life can suck sometimes. People lie, cheat, screw you over, and treat you like crap. That’s not up for debate, but we all have a choice. You can either wallow in that bullshit, or you can pick yourself up, keep moving, and show the world exactly what you’re made of.
The longer you stay stuck in your head, reliving every single wrong that’s been done to you, the longer you hold yourself back. I see people do it all the time. They get cheated on, lied to, or left out, and they wear it like a badge of honor.
They believe they’re victims, but they’re just people who refuse to move on. You can cry and complain about it all you want, but it won’t change a damn thing. The past is gone; what matters is what you’re doing right now and how being present will shape your future.
Overcoming adversity is a part of life. Bad stuff will always happen. It’s inevitable, but how you respond is what sets you apart. You can keep letting the bad shit in your life dictate who you are, or you can decide to keep moving forward, no matter what. It’s not about ignoring your feelings or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about deciding to push through and focusing on things you can change.
When you commit to executing your daily tasks in a non-compromising, non-emotional way, you’ll start seeing the hard days for what they really are. Life is constantly testing you, and each time you pass those tests, you’ll build a little more faith in your ability to handle whatever comes your way. You’ll stop questioning yourself and start trusting that you can figure it out no matter what.
If you want to win in life, you must stop spending your time complaining. You don’t sit around crying about how unfair life is. Understand that life’s challenges are there to make them stronger, not break you. You learn that pushing through the tough times is what separates the men from the boys.
When was the last time you faced something hard and came out the other side stronger? If the answer is never, then you are doing it wrong. Life gives you all the opportunities to grow, but if you’re still holding onto your victim story, you’re wasting it.
The most powerful thing you can do is decide that no matter what happens, you will keep moving forward without excuses, blaming others, or playing the victim. You will push through the adversity and keep going. Good things will start to happen when you do that, and you will realize that you can’t be stopped.
That’s the peace that comes with knowing you are in control. That’s the peace that comes with letting go of the past and deciding to build your future. You can’t change what happened yesterday, but you can control what you do today, and that is where your power lies.
When you stop playing the victim, when you stop holding onto your past wounds and start using them as an excuse for why you can’t succeed, you unlock a level of strength that you didn’t even know was possible. You become unstoppable!
Once you realize this, you start kicking ass in a way you never thought possible. You start winning, not just for yourself, winning in a way that shows others what’s possible when you stop playing small. You become the example. The one who rises above. The one who refuses to be broken by life’s challenges.
Are you going to keep hanging onto past bullshit, playing the victim, and wondering why things never get better? Or will you let it go, take control, and show everyone how it’s done?
The choice is yours. Let it go. Stop being a victim. And start winning.
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