She Can't Save You
Being human means you’re flawed. You’re not perfect. You’re not supposed to be.
But most men can’t handle that truth, so they perform.
They hide the parts of themselves they’ve decided are unlovable, the anger, the fear, the weakness, and the need. They polish the exterior, smile on cue, say “I’m fine,” and play the part of the capable man who’s got it all together.
It’s bullshit, and deep down, they know it.
That performance says one thing loud and clear: “I don’t belong as I am.”
The feeling of internal disconnection is why you shut down when things get heated. It’s why you get reactive with your wife’s “big emotions.” It’s why your relationship feels strained even when nothing “seems wrong.”
You’re not fighting her, you’re fighting yourself.
Most men are begging their wives to love them in a way they refuse to love themselves.
They want her to accept their darkness, while they run from it.
They want her to be patient with their pain, while they deny they’re even hurting.
They want her to see the best in them, while they can’t stand the man in the mirror.
You’re asking her to be the energy you won’t be for yourself, and that’s why the relationship fails.
You don’t need more approval from her.
You need to face the parts of yourself you’ve been running from.
You need to look directly at the shame, the fear, the cracks in your armor, and choose to face your insecurities.
That’s the beginning of connection with yourself and the path to freedom.
Relationships don’t thrive when you’re perfect. They thrive when you’re whole.
So stop acting like your self-worth is dependent upon your lady.
Stop expecting your woman to fix what only you can face, and show up like a man who’s already enough, even with the scars.