Do a Little Extra

It seems like everyone’s carrying a heavy weight these days. Stress is a constant companion, loneliness is becoming the norm, and uncertainty about the future looms over us like a dark cloud. If you’re anything like me, you probably ask yourself, “What the fuck is going on?” But the more important question is, “What can I do to help?

It doesn’t take grand gestures or big promises. Sometimes, the biggest impact comes from the simplest acts. No matter what you’re doing, always do a little extra.

We’re all trying to navigate this crazy world with our own set of challenges and struggles. A small act of kindness can mean the world to someone feeling overwhelmed or isolated. It’s in those moments that we can show someone they’re not alone and remind them their path is not unusual.

Take the opportunity to connect. Have a genuine conversation that goes beyond the usual surface-level chatter. Ask how they’re really doing and listen, really listen. Sometimes, just knowing that someone cares enough to ask can make a huge difference.

Be intentional and genuine with every interaction. Don’t just go through the motions; bring your full self to the table. Tell the fucking truth! When you engage with people authentically, it doesn’t just brighten their day; it improves yours. The world is starved for real connection. In a time where digital distractions are everywhere, your heartfelt presence can be the defining moment of change.

Doing a little extra doesn’t mean you must be perfect or always have the right words. This doesn’t mean you create pressure to “fix” your fellow man. It means being present, being attentive, and being genuinely interested in the well-being of others. Sometimes, that means sending a simple text to check in, complimenting, or even trying to make someone laugh. These small acts of kindness accumulate and can have a ripple effect that spreads far beyond your immediate circle.

Inside the Fraternity of Excellence, I live and breathe this message weekly. In a men’s group, there is no shortage of disagreements, competition, and banter, but camaraderie is the core value. Help and support are only seen as a weakness by people who believe they have nothing to offer, so start being that man who shows up for himself and others.

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.” —Lucius Annaeus Seneca

There is always a need for accountability, but instead of focusing on what’s lacking or not going right, channel your energy into making someone’s day just a little better. Be the person who reaches out, listens without judgment, and shows up even when inconvenient. Your actions, no matter how small, can be the beacon of light someone desperately needs.

Remember, the world needs this. Men need this! We need more of these extra efforts and real moments of connection. They might not solve all the problems, but they can offer a break from the stress during loneliness and a glimmer of hope in uncertain times.

So next time you interact with someone, whether a friend, a colleague, or a stranger, ask yourself, “What can I do to make this moment a little better?” And then do it.

Do a little extra.